Dealing with Insecurities
Are they going to like me? Why aren’t I as pretty as her? Are they going to listen if I share my heart? Am I dispensable? Am I capable enough? What person doesn’t deal with insecurities of some shape or form? Sometimes if they are bad enough, they take on a life of their own, even directing and controlling our actions. I struggle with insecurities; it seems like they manifest more heavily when I am feeling tired or already drained emotionally. I don’t think we have to stay in the position of succumbing to our insecurities. We can rise above them, but in order to overcome insecurities we have to learn what it means to be secure.
Insecurities Limit Us
When it comes to insecurities, we are our worst enemies. It is 90% irrational fears that have manifested in our minds to become this barrier that denies us the freedom to be ourselves. We get so anxious and burdened by things we are convinced limit us, that instead of addressing these fears and overcoming them, we avoid them completely, allowing our insecurities to take on a life of their own.
How Can We Become Secure?
A. Fully understand how God views you.
We are valuable children of God, handcrafted from head to toe with limitless possibilities. Yet, by our own volition, our insecurities deny us that freedom. We have to redirect our thoughts, to see the bigger picture, to see ourselves how God sees us.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
B. Focus on a Purpose
The more we look around us and try to help others, we have less time to focus on our own insecurities. Focusing on our own inadequacies and insecurities is like quick sand. It leads to a pit of nothing you want to be a part of… depression, loneliness, fears, disobedience.
Challenge: Who can we reach out to this week?
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
C. Get to the root of your Insecurity
Take a moment to wrap your head around your insecurity. What are you insecure about? (e.g. looks, fear of rejection, financial status, etc) What affects does it play in your life? (eg. Uncomfortable, self loathing, envious, depressed, avoiding people) Why might you have this insecurity? And what does God say about it to counter the negativity that floods our mind so that our thoughts may be redirected?
- Appearance: Psalm 139:14; Proverbs 31:30
- Fear of Rejection: Galatians 1:10-12; John 15:18; Matthew 10:28
- Financial: Matthew 6:26-34; Exodus 20:17
- Faith: Mark 8:38
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D. Address the fears that spurs the Insecurity
Next time your insecurity rears its ugly head, try to follow through with life as though you didn’t have that insecurity. It is not going to be fun in the beginning. Insecurities are bad habits that take time to redrill out of your mind. Some insecurities love to stick around, however, hopefully over time you will overcome them. As you walk through these fears of insecurities, write down what actually happens as a visual reminder. Sometimes the result may not be pleasing, but keep on addressing those insecurities and don’t run from them. Overall, I think you will see the outcome is not as bad as our fears have displayed. Grab a friend to help encourage you on your journey, and let them know how you are doing. You don’t have to do this alone.
The effects of insecurity are real. They are a pain in the butt. They altar the course of how we do things and limit us. It’s not something we can just avoid and hopefully it fixes itself. It has to be a conscience choice to start making positive strides to kick those insecurities out of our mind. Hopefully we will all take the charge and deal with our insecurities, leave them at the feet of Jesus, and start today a fresh with a new outlook and focus.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.
“So Long Insecurity” by Beth Moore
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