Stop Comparing: How to Stay Focused on your Goals


We have goals, hopes that drive us. They are reminders of the reasons we are making the sacrifices and dedication needed to keep us focused. Yet sometimes our goals fall flat on their face before we can even get out of the starting gate.

We compare ourselves to others.

She is a better writer, she is a better cook, she is a better mom.

We wrestle with the notion that our best is not sufficient, so why even try. Our goals become pushed to the side, because they sound juvenile in comparison to the person who is about to climb Mt. Everest.

But God’s not comparing us to the person who is climbing Mt. Everest, so why are we?

God is looking at your unique gifts and talents, and asks you to be the best steward you can with these things, and if you are faithful with what He has given you He will bless you with more.

His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness.

Matthew 5:21

We look at the person who has achieved so much and question our purpose.

Yet God sees things through a different scope.

God says, “If you can write… go write…”

Me, “But only a few people read my blog…”

God says, “I chose those few…”

If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.

1 Corinthians 12:17-18

God’s thoughts are not our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8)

We look for quantity…
God values quality.
We look for validation…
God values obedience.
We look for the finished product…
God values the journey.

So when we compare ourselves to others we add an unnecessary weight on our shoulders, because your journey is totally different than there’s.

You are personalized by God. He doesn’t want you to be the person you are comparing yourself too. He wants you to be you. So what is your next step? Your next goal based on your individual journey and makeup?

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord,  not human masters.

Colossians 3:23

How to stay focused on your goals?

  • Keep a journal and track your progress – So when you start getting discouraged, you have recordable proof that you are going in a forward motion.
  • Don’t compare yourself to the glimpses of others lives – I guarantee they have good days and bad days just like you. Change is not an overnight sensation. It is a one day at a time in the right direction.
  • Start afresh – When you mess up, don’t kick yourself to the point you think you are a failure. Think of ways to avoid that mistake and move on.
  • Keep your eye on the prize – Remind yourself of your goals and why you desire to achieve them.

Please Share Your Thoughts

  • Jer

    Great points!

  • I love the “don’t compare yourself”. People are good at putting fronts on things. Do not compare yourself, you never know what lurks behind the supposedly perfect facade. :) TWEETED

    ~Lorelai
    Life With Lorelai
    an Inspired Blogger

    • Thanks for tweeting the article, I really appreciate it! Yah, comparison doesn’t really breed anything good, it’s kind of setting our goals on a false sense of reality. It’s best to just keep our eyes on Jesus, and do what He calls each of us to do. He’s a lot more forgiving than we are of ourselves. “Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith… ” (heb. 12:2)

  • I’m visiting through Inspired Bloggers. This is great truth. It’s not about comparing it’s about obedience to doing what He’s called us to do. I’d love to have you come over and link this at CMB. So glad I found you! Blessings!

    • Thank you so much! I am honored! Went over to Countingmyblessings.com and linked up

  • Linda Henderson

    Whoever is faithful in little will be faithful in much. God looks at a person’s life differently than people might judge it. Our value comes from God , not from what people say or think about us. I like how you pointed out that God looks to see if you’re using the gifts and talents He has given you. We each have our spheres of influence where they can be activated and used most effectively.Good reminders about not making comparisons. Sometimes I think a little colored lady from the South could have greater rewards in Heaven just for faithfully praying for others or doing whatever acts of kindness God led her to do than somebody who got all their applause from people here on earth, but didn’t think much about the life here after. Again- it’s making a comparison, but God is the final judge, and as we said- He judges differently than people judge. God looks at the heart, as you said- whether it seems like what you’re doing is important or not. And believe you me, Grace, being a wife, raising children, and sharing your faith and experience in these blogs is important to God. You’re doing a good job taking care of the responsibilities He’s given you ( to Him be the glory!)

    • Thank you for your encouragement mom! That is my prayer that I am a good steward of what God has given me. I have a plaque that says,” When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me’.-Erma Bombeck

  • You are so right- comparison can be utterly crippling, and we tend to do it more than we realize. Yet we are precious is our uniqueness, each with a God-given plan… thanks for this wonderful reminder! :)

    • You are welcome. And I totally agree we are “precious in our uniqueness” love how you put that. I am glad we are not a carbon copy of each other, what fun would that be ?

  • Josiah

    Grace, I know you’ve already gotten a bit of feedback, but I think this is my favorite blog so far.

    • oh man! Thank you!! That is a huge compliment. I am thankful for people like you that encourage me on my journey. God is good.