It was 8:20pm, the kids were in their room winding down for the night. Me and my husband were relaxing on the couch, as I hear the pitter patter of little feet. This is a normal occurrence at night, the kids seeking their one (or three) last goodnight interactions.
Tim: Mom I want to show you something, you have to get up.
Me: Tired as I usually am at this time, roll myself off the couch in an attempt to accommodate his request.
We walk into Tim’s bedroom
Tim: I made it for you; it took me a long time.
I look on his desk, and there is a Lincoln log house, with little rooms and windows handcrafted with love. I couldn’t help but beam with pride for his act of kindness.
Me: You did such a great job! I love it, thank you.
Tim: I made it for you because I love you.
Kindness, love, the ability to make a heart grow three sizes, sometimes I can relate with the Grinch Who Stole Christmas. There is so much heaviness in the world, so many obligations, lack of physical ability and time to do as much as you desire; it can overtake us. But as I looked at my son I felt so loved, and all my excuses trickled off of my melting heart. I need to be a better mom; I want to be a better mom. I try to do my best. Some days are better than others, but I know there is room for improvement, so I will keep on working on it.
Ways to Show Your Kids You Love Them
1) Love Their Dad
Showing your kids that you love and respect their father isn’t just a feel good story, it helps the kids feel secure and loved as well.
Here is a great list of prayers to pray over your marriage. I am starting this too. http://timewarpwife.com/?p=1751
2) Spend Quality Time With Them
Life can be busy; I definitely can empathize with that. Our days are like perfectly placed Jenga pieces, so if something does not go as smoothly as expected, our day could come crashing down. That’s why it’s so important to fit our kids in our schedule even before the day has begun. It doesn’t have to cost money. It can be wrestling in their room with them, building a Lego house, playing with their dollhouse.
If you want to have a game plan for your daily activities, or wonder where does your time get used, here is a quick Daily Schedule Worksheet to lay out your daily routine. When I did this, I realized how busy I really am, and that I had to make time for my priorities or they would not get done.
3) Affirm Them
Encourage your kids when they are doing the right thing. This may combat some of the times they try to get your attention doing what they shouldn’t be doing.
4) Set Boundaries
Kids need to know their boundaries. They need to know that you care about them enough to take leadership, and they can trust you with that responsibility. If kids didn’t need parents, God would not have designed it as so.
Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
There are tons of ways to show our kids we love them. What are some ways that you show your kids that you love them?