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Being the Best Wife & Mother


My prayer is that I can be the best wife and mother I can be. A task that would be easier if I had a Ken Barbie husband and children who lived at Super Nanny’s house, but the reality is, I am not perfect and neither are they. I have to keep my head in check and focus so I can love my family as much as they deserved to be loved despite our big ball of imperfections. Today I’d prefer not to focus on what our family needs to change, but rather how to work on ourselves.

It isn’t about what others can do to make my life more manageable, but what can I do in my current situation that will bring glory to God.

Do things without Complaining

We wake up tired. Kids start complaining, and we want to complain back. Don’t they realize how good they have it? Then we hear our Father in Heaven say, ”Don’t you realize how good you have it?”

Do Everything without complaining or arguing.

Philippians 2:14

Have patience

We are late for an activity again. One would think an hour prep time would be enough to get everyone ready, but alas it’s not. Have patience with your toddler because he is so much more important than anything you are running to.

Slow to anger. Abounding in love.

You and your husband are disagreeing. It’s funny how opposites attract. Isn’t it? Why can’t he just see it my way? God says, “is it worth fighting about?” Isn’t your husband worth more than a petty argument. I can still remember one of our first married arguments, *err discussions* about if the salt and pepper should go on the table or the stove. Silly, huh?

The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.

Psalm 103:8

Embrace change, go with the flow.

Sometimes we aren’t going to be able to do everything on our “to do list”, and that is ok. Pray that God guides your path so you can finish the things that need to get done. Everything else is just the cherry on top. Kids are more important than our focused agendas.

Cast your burdens upon Christ

Feeling tired, lonely, drained? Tell Christ about it. He doesn’t want us to feel that way. He wants our cup to overflow with joy and peace through the turmoil so we can point to God and say, “Thank you Lord! I can not do this on my own, but You are the peace that passes all understanding.”

Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous fall.

Psalm 55:22

And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Phillippians 4:7

Our Ministry

Our husband and children are gifts from God. They are part of our ministry here on earth. We can’t truly be used to bless others until we learn how to express love at home, and be thankful for what He has given us.

It’s ok to take five.

Call up a girlfriend and go for some coffee. Although sometimes we feel like superwoman (and we are), it is ok to get recharged. It doesn’t lessen our love for our kids or our husbands. I have to remind myself of this because there is that little voice whispering in our ears that tries to make us feel that if we take some time away from the kids, we are trying to pass off our responsibilities. On the contrary, it allows us to get refreshed so we can be an even better wife and parent.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Food for thought

What’s one thing in your household that you can do differently that would bring honor to God?

Please Share Your Thoughts

  • Tracey Shickluna

    Grace, your writings are amazing! God has given you such wisdom with His Word. It is such a joy and encouragement to follow your blog. Thank you for sharing!

    • Tracey that truly means a lot! God is good, thank you for going out of your way to encourage me. I love how God enables us to be blessed when we are only doing what He has enabled us to do in the first place. We serve a great God.

  • Linda Henderson

    Grace, I know I keep on commenting about your blogs- saying how great they are. But even though I’m your Mom, & it may seem like it’s expected of me, I’m not just saying it for that reason. You’re writings are really very inspirational! Love your picture of the fam ! When it comes to Spiritual matters, you & I are on the same page ( your practical side is from your father). It’s really good you’re thinking of the importance of being a Wife & Mom. We’re very proud of you. But more importantly- God is pleased with you, too!

    • Hi mom! I love that you keep on commenting. Now I see why some pastors encourage the shouts of Amen! It gives me extra encouragement that i am on the right track. The feedback is great. Love you, looking forward to seeing you next weekend.

  • cindy

    god bless you, i wish i had your inspiration.

    • Thank you Cindy! God bless you too! I am just trying to share the words God put on my heart. Blessed that God has allowed me to be a part of this adventure.

  • Kristin Corbett

    So GREAT!!! Needed this reminder today. Thank you Grace and thank you for allowing God to use you!! You are such an encouragement to me!! Such a great reminder to not dwell on the to-do list or arriving on time but glorifying God in our home and allowing Him to work in my life and in and through my family. Keep allowing God to use you as His vessel! He’s working mightly through you ;)

  • cheryl

    I have just read the inspiring words you have expressed and I thankyou for that its not easy being a wife and mum and with all the ups and downs we forget that we are not alone and that there is true meaning to those titles I guess we need idividuals like yourself to give us some direction I truely appreciate that. Godbless you for the work that you are doing.

    • You are so encouraging! thank you, and God bless you as well. You are so right, it is not easy being a wife and mom. Hardest jobs we are called to do. I never realized how much stretching and growth happens in those two processes. It truly has opened my eyes at least to a small degree of the love God has for us, and the depth of grace and forgiveness we receive as well as are required to give. Thank you for taking the time to encourage me, hope you have a great week.

  • Ayo

    For the first time going thru dis page and I felt d holy spirit ministering to me.thanks so much Grace.

    • That is really encouraging! thank you and God bless

  • Alice

    What is left to say,u ve said it all.God bless u mom

  • sam

    and also make sure that you give time to your family and take them places that they will enjoy eg: disneyland, blackpool